Transforming the IDK Girl

The IDK Girl needs to know that they have a voice. She needs to know that even if she makes the wrong choice, at least they are making a choice. The IDK Girl needs to find the confidence to fail. Failing is difficult. But failing forward is a positive experience that can lead to better and more wise decisions in the future.

Failing forward* means that when you fail (not if you fail–but WHEN) you learn a lesson from every failure. Those lessons will build your confidence, bring you closer to wisdom, allow you to change and refine your ideas, thoughts, opinions and purpose.

The IDK Girl needs to know that her friends opinions don’t mean everything. She needs to know that sometimes, her friends will not like, or even hate her thoughts, and that’s perfectly okay. She needs to know that she doesn’t always have to be like everyone else, because she was not created to be like everyone else.

Her confidence should remain in the absolute truth found solely in her identity in Christ. Because Christ created her as a masterpiece, because she’s the apple of HIS eye, because he formed her and created her for a purpose, that is why the IDK Girl can like pineapple on her pizza, or wear Tom’s shoes even if everyone at school says they look like slippers, or help the “dork” with his backpack.

The IDK girl needs someone like YOU pointing out the truth of who she is so that she can become all that God wants her to be. And the more you move yourself from an IDK Woman, the more you are a living example of the truth of God’s love living in and through you.

Are you an IDK girl?

How do you encourage your tweens and teens to be confident in who they are?

*Failing Forward is a concept originated by John Maxwell.